Saturday, January 29, 2011

Hair Care for the Natural Boy

Who says a mother of sons can't instill an appreciation for natural hair in her boys?  As a mother of 3 sons (one almost 20) I realize boys of all ages with short hair, long hair, and in between, loc'd or loose can benefit from learning to build a natural hair care regimen and an appreciation for natural hair products. Now that I've decided to keep my hair in its natural state all the time, my sons are learning how to care for their hair as well.  They love the smell of the products I use, aside from some of the Ayurveda powders, (smiling).

I decided to let my youngest sons hair grow at his request about a month ago.  He's currently rockin' a small fro with a taper fade.  I co-wash his fro, towel dry and spray my Knot Today and water mixture in his hair, then add my oil mixture of EVOO, Castor, lavender, and rosemary essentials.  He tells me how much he loves the smell and how soft his hair feels. Even at 5 years old  he is learning and building an appreciation for his Afro textured hair! 

That's his endorsement smile!

My middle son decided to cut his mid-back length hair for the first time 18 months ago.  I was a bit apprehensive at first until I saw how beautiful his hair naturally waved up.  No wave grease or anything, just natural waves.  Not long ago I learned he uses the Cantu Shea Butter Leave-in I keep under my bathroom sink.  Funny thing is, he never told me he was using it.  I know the scent and asked him if he was using any of my natural products on his hair.  He reluctantly disclosed he'd been using it just before going to bed and putting the do-rag on afterward.  In the morning he uses the same EVOO mixture I put on his little brothers fro.  I was delighted to know, all the talking and blogging I do about natural hair is rubbing off and he's learning to care for his hair the natural way. 

I don't know too many teenage boys who put EVOO in their hair, but I'm sure glad mine does.  I'm even teaching him some of the natural hair lingo.   

One of the most important lessons I feel they are learning is to appreciate a black woman's natural hair.  When we go places my middle son points out other Naturalistas.  I think this is because he has come to appreciate the beauty and care involved with taking care of my hair. My long term wish is that all my sons will choose wives with beautiful natural hair and undo the false perceptions of what constitutes beauty so many black men are plagued with today (which sad to say in some cases prevents black women from embracing their natural selves).  I realize I am leading by example not only for them in their own hair care but for how they look at other girls and women as well.

If you wished you had a daughter to share your journey with, don't be discouraged.  Share it with your son.  Teach him about your hair and his.  This will ensure when he grows up, he will love another black woman as she is meant to be, relaxer free, and embracing her natural self.  Everything  my children have learned and continue to learn as being positive or negative, has come from their parents.  Our views inadvertently pass on to them and they inherit those same views.  As natural mothers we can help change the distorted views many black men have about natural hair and give their support, understanding, and respect to natural hair girls and women .  By setting the example I will reverse the negative "good hair" myth by encouraging truth, that all healthy natural hair is good hair!



  1. This is awesome! You are such a wonderful mother and I commend you for raising your young (handsome!) men to appreciate us as we are naturally meant to be in this world! Kudos :)

    1. Thank you so much Brittany. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment. Be blessed Sis!

  2. I have 3 boys also and love this post! I honestly have not taken care of my boys hair except a fade every other week. Thanks for the inspiration to start :)

    1. Right on Juliette! You're welcome and thank you for reading Sis!

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  4. AWESOME, I kwow it's an older post but sooooo relevant!
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