Thursday, November 25, 2010

Attitude of Gratitude

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.  ~JFK
 In the past 4 months I have made being grateful for everything I have and dont have a priority.  This has been an intricate part of my daily life.  Without it I feel lost, with no guidence or protection.  I remember last Thanksgiving I wrote on Facebook that I was going to give a shout out of thanks everyday...that lasted about 3 weeks (smiling).  Most of the time, thanks for lifes happy days, things, and moments were the only time I reflected on or felt I had to be thankful for, and again on Thanksgiving.  My spirit has changed from what I knew as giving thanks to suffice gratefulness, to now making gratitude my attitude everyday.  Of course I go through things which sometimes cause me to feel I have no reason to be grateful they are happening to me.  It is in the midst of those situations I've learned to be even more grateful.  I made a gratitude list awhile back and when Im feeling the burden of lifes lows I turn to my sheet of paper and remind myself of all the wonderous and glorious things the Divine blesses me with waking up.  Waking up is so simple for me it became something that was unappreciated.  I saw it as an occurance that is supposed to happen in the morning.  In actuality, the very confidence I felt in knowing I would wake up the next day to new possibilities is one of the strongest signs of faith I had in a higher power. Nothing and no one is promised another day.  Realizing I was an ingrate (and still fall short at times), my heart longed for change so I strive to make gratititude my attitude, daily.
Luving Gratitude

God's love
My children
My mothers unconditional love for me
My father
My brothers
My family
My health and my childrens health
The ability to utilize all 5 senses
The gift of creativity
My life
My home and everything in it
My car
My clothes and shoes and the ability to provide my family with the same
My Job
This past year 2010
True friendship
My luv, passion and all that I know, so far, about natural hair care
My education and my childrens education
The conversation I had w/ my Mommy Dear this morning 
To know abundance surrounds me
My ability to write
Knowing right from wrong
Every book I've ever read
Giving love
My faith
All that God protects me from
The clients I have and to come
For all the love I receive
For every new person that enters my life
My past
For waking up everyday for the past 37 years.


Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Fallacies of Natural Hair

It wasn't until recently when I decided to turn my dreams into reality and embark on my career as a natural hair stylist that I began recognizing the various meanings people felt defined natural hair.  Everyone is entitled to think feel and believe as they wish.  No opinion is better than another as only facts merit truth.  I was recently contacted by someone who watched my YouTube "Journey to LuvMyKynxx" video.  This person responded to it by stating, in their opinion, I was not natural when I wore my hair flat ironed over the years regardless of the fact I wasn't chemically relaxed.  In their opinion, natural means no straightening of hair.  Although their opinion of my video was unsolicited, I respect peoples views about information I share and want to address it.  My intention for Luv♥My♥Kynxx is to share what I've learned by providing correct and accurate information which is not misleading.  So, moving forward this is...

What "Natural Hair" means to me...

Plain and simple, hair that is not chemically relaxed which has permanently changed the texture of the hair.    Some may agree, some may disagree, its all a matter of  personal perception of what natural means to each individual.  Again, no opinion should be looked upon as fact, not even mine.  What concerned me most about the persons response to the video was the implication that somehow I was misleading others to believe I was natural when in essence I was not, solely based on their opinion of what natural meant to them.  To state that thermally straightened hair, without any chemicals is not natural, in my opinion is a fallacy.  One benefit of being natural is having the versatility to go from curly to straight, wash, and back to curly again.  Hair that has been relaxed will not allow such texture versatility.  Overtime, thermal straightening can cause permanent heat damage to where the curls will not revert back.  Heat damage was the issue I had that prompted me to stop using heat on my hair.  Nonetheless, in my opinion, my hair was still natural when it was being thermally straightened due to the fact it has not been chemically altered and the texture has not been permanently changed.

As I've stated before I am not a vegan natural product user. I've read opinions of other naturals that unless you use vegan organic products, your hair is not natural.  I don't, as yet, have the time nor desire to make my own products.  I will occasionally mix up homemade hot oil treatments, conditioners, gels and such when I want.  I read ingredients and make a  point to stay away from harmful agents like sls, petroleum, mineral oil, and a few others.  For me, as long as a product I'm contemplating on trying doesn't include the aforementioned harmful agents, I  will more then likely opt to try it.  Does the fact I don't use vegan products or mix my own discredit my ability to be considered a natural hair wearer or stylist?...its all a matter of perception and personal opinion.

My purpose for Luv♥My♥Kynxx is to unite not to divide.  I am not anti- relaxer nor pro- natural.  I am pro- Me.  I am pro anyone embracing what makes a person comfortable in their own skin.  It just so happens I am most comfortable when I wear my hair natural, thus my blog, and any future videos I make will reflect what I am seeking which is to achieve healthy naturally coily, kinky hair.  I will also address hair issues for those who have contacted me with relaxed hair and do not desire a natural head of hair, and help them find healthier ways to incorporated in caring for their hair was well. 

In closing, if you love weave, weave it up!  However, if a person is suffering from baldness, thinning hair and hair line as a result of wearing weaves with too much tension, I want to help find ways to correct the balding and to empower a person to speak up to their stylist or recognize if they are self installing when a weave is too tight.  If you love color, color it up! However, if you are continuously coloring your hair at home or having it done at a salon and your hair is breaking off and damaged, lets find out what is causing the breakage and address ways to correct that issue.  If you love your hair relaxed, relax it up! However, if your hair is breaking, thinning, dry, damaged and over processed, lets find alternatives, even if temporary, to regain the hair health that is desired.  This way moving forward with chemical processing healthier hair choices are made to maintain strength, density and length.  No matter which way a person chooses to wear their hair as long as it makes them feel they are being true to who they are and as beautiful as they can be...that is all that my opinion.


Friday, November 12, 2010

Highlights from Nappiology Expo 2010

Highlights from Nappiology Expo 2010

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Sunday, November 7th marked the 3rd Annual Nappiology Expo. I felt fortunate for the opportunity to attend.  I want to give special kudos to De Phillips nappiologist/founder of Nappiology, Inc. for her outstanding work in putting the Expo together, allowing naturals and vendors to come together under one roof on this special day.  Attending this event was more than I had imagined it would be.  I was blown away by how many women in the area who are natural.  Prior to the expo I had never attended any type of hair show or expo so this was a first for me.  Nevertheless, the event superseded any expectations I could have had.  I was able to network with other naturals and even set up a couple of app for the upcoming week, one appointment was scheduled for the next day!  I am so grateful for being able to attend the Nappiology Expo 2010 and look forward to next years event.  I knew I'd be fighting off some serious shopping temptations while there so prior to going I allotted myself a budget and wrote down must have items: Jewelery, Tee, and CD Hair Milk...Here are some highlights of my day!

As I walked around it was nice to see images of women wearing their natural hair, from every walk of life...Inspiring!

This was the first booth I passed entering the vendor section of the Expo.  I may purchase one in the future to prolong the life of my braided styles.  As shown there is a huge variety of colors and patterns...continued success to Loc Soc owner! For more info click HERE.

Ah yes...the infamous Jane Carter Solution! When I first arrived the booth was still being set up and Ms. Carter was nowhere in sight.  I did get a chance to pass by later on saw her but was too shy to ask for a pic. Big regret...(smiling).

I was excited about Carols Daughter Macy's being there.  It had been awhile since I purchased some Hair Milk and decided to pick up a bottle.  I also wanted to compare it to the Pura Body Naturals Muru Muru Moisture Milk I'd recently tried and reviewed.

As I continued walking around I spotted Jewelery!  Uh Oh!

One of the main items I knew I had to leave with was Handmade Jewelery.  Soon as I saw this booth my eyes couldn't help but focus on these:

These are custom hand made rings from Jewels by Anike.  I couldn't pass it up for $15 so  I had to wait for the Artisan to finish with her current patron.

Her name is Riyike Faleti (love her name) and she designs jewelery for Jewels by Anike.  While making my ring she and I had the chance to get acquainted.  Her business is stationed in Houston, TX and she decided to make her own jewelery after being frustrated about not finding jewelery that fit her style...and voi`la a star is born!
This ring is so comfortable.  Riyike took her time and truly customized this ring just for me.  She was genuinely friendly and welcoming.  I was grateful to have been able to patronize her booth and wish her continued blessings.

Isn't it just too part-tee...(smiling)!
Thanks Riyike. 
To see more and order from Jewels by Anike go HERE. 

Another awesome jeweler from H-Town.  I misplaced her business card so I don't have any info on her.  However if your in Houston and want to find another great jeweler look for the beautiful Lady with bright red Sista Locks.

"Good Hair: Hair that is kept in good condition.  Texture is of no importance."

I had to have it!  I used to loathe the term but now understand its true meaning, printed on this tee shirt above, I'm beginning to embrace it, since after all, I DO have Good Hair!...(smiling)

Another vendor was AfroVeda.  In the photo is Mala Rhodes, Founder and CEO
For more info about AfroVeda Products click

Author of Good Enough Mother, Rene Syler had a book signing table as well...the line was long too.  I didn't have time to stay and find out what the book was about as I didn't want to miss the 3rd Workshop of the day, Hair locking 101.  So I mossey'd my way to the workshop!

Talk about exceeding expectations.  I had no idea this workshop was going to be such a blessing to me.  I learned so much during the 90 minute workshop Instructed by Malaika Tamu Cooper of Dreadz Headz in Baltimore, MD.  I learned about hair locking, hair locking on Caucasian type hair, lock maintenance, heard great business tips, and she briefly discussed on her ability to sometimes look at a persons hair and assess health issues...I can go on.  
Below is a clip from the Hairlocking 101 Workshop

"Malaika Tamu Cooper...does NOT TEACH Sista Locks!"...she made us repeat that to her twice...(smiling!).  I must say she works lightening fast.  Prior to the Workshop I saw her set up at her own booth working on turning a lady wearing a TWA into silky comb coils.  She was an awesome speaker and has been in the field of natural hair styling and care since 1993.  Ms Cooper also host the 2nd largest natural gathering in the US called the Baltimore Natural Beauty Expo Symposium which will be held January 15 & 16, 2011.  For more info click HERE.

I decided to stay for the next Workshop 4: Hair Empowerment Hosted by Keisha Ricks Salon owner of Nappy Bliss in De Soto, TX.

Below is a Clip of her Basic Styling Demo (please excuse my voice co-signing in the background, I couldnt help it...(smiling):


I loved the fact there was a screen behind her so when she performed demos people in the audience could get a better view of what was being done. One of the products Keisha said works great on her 4C type hair is Taliah Waajid Black Earth Products, who also happen to be a vendor at the Expo.

Workshop 5: Transitioning 101 was next...I opted to return to the vendor section since I'm not transitioning and found that even more women were arriving.  It was packed!  So many lovely ladies with lovely hair styles, I just had to take pics! And no one minded my boldness in asking...(smiling).

Not sure of this Naturalistas name I just had to take a photo of her self created style...simply mah-velous!

I love it!

This is Ashley...who happens to now be a new client of mine. She BC'd in July and this photo does her naturally jet black coif no justice.  Ashely rocks a thick 3c/4a Fro like a star with a flower to accent its beauty. I'm grateful and blessed to have met such a beautiful young lady with an equally beautiful spirit.  Pics of Ashley's hairstyle I did the next day can be viewed in the Gallery section

This is the crowd of ladies waiting for the Hair Styling Showcase to begin...felt so good to see so many Naturalistas! 

Showcase Stage

And the show begins with styles by Keisha Ricks of Nappy Bliss Salon in De Soto, TX

This style is a fishtail on mature locks

Due to the distance of where I was standing from the stage the photos don't show details of the styles.  I decided not to continue to take pics of the showcase...Nevertheless, the show was awesome!

I so enjoyed my day at the Nappiology Expo 2010  as this pic shows I returned home with all kinds of business cards, flyer's, and product samples.

And last but not least...below are pics of myself all decked out and heading out to the Expo! 

My Ensemble and Nappiology Expo Hair Doo!

One Side Braided Twist Out


Saturday, November 6, 2010

Winter Cornrow Styling Protectives

One of my favorite hairstyles, even before I knew what protective styling was, is cornrows.  I learned how to braid when I was 8 years old practicing on my Barbie styling head, then moving on to do other peoples hair.  I got serious and starting making money from braiding on other people in 2001 after trying cornrows with extensions for the first time on a friend of mine that came out really good.   I remember 2001 being the year Alica Keys came out with Falling and everyone started rocking cornrows with beads.  Prior to Alicia Keys I was wearing cornrows with wooden beads and gold clasps just for the record..smiling.  This winter I intend on retro-ing the cornrow and bead or some type of ornaments added to my styles.  I like the care free maintenance cornrow braiding offers as well.  I just sleep with a Du Rag on, take it off in the morning... and keep it the saying goes.  Depending on how small I make the braids a style will last between 10 to 14 days which makes it a really  great protective style.  I happen to be one of those ladies who loves to switch up my look.  Wearing a style longer than two weeks would be a serious challenge for me which is one reason cornrows are a great option for those who like to switch it up a bit. 

I love the versatility of cornrow braiding.  Individuals look nice however cornrows offer more of an opportunity to get creative as a stylist.  With extensions or without, braided only in the front, or on the sides.  The options are endless.  Below is a photo of a Braided Faux Hawk I recently styled.

At the end of the day, for me its all about simplicity and creating styles that are healthy and easy to maintain.  I'm always mindful of how much pressure I apply to the scalp; health first, style second.  Moving forward, I will be filling Luv My Kynxx with styles for inspiration and if you see a style you like and live in the DFW metroplex, email to book an appt.  Peace n' Blessings!


Thursday, November 4, 2010

3rd Annual Nappiology Expo


 November is Nappiology's three year Nappiversary!!!

We are an active social networking natural hair group that embraces and celebrates natural beautiful hair and nappy roots. Nappiology was established on November 17, 2007 as a meetup group and in March 2009 became incorporated. We have over 1300 members and growing.

Nappiology Expo
Natural Hair and Beauty Experience
Sunday, November 7, 2010
University of Texas at Arlington
E.H. Hereford University Center
Bluebonnet Room
300 W. First Street
Arlington, Texas 76010
Expo will include:
Featured speaker: Rene Syler -
Five (5) Natural Hair Care Workshops
Several Vendors - catering to those embracing their napptural beauty and style - we encourage that you bring CASH please!
General admission: $10 per person
"The use of the E.H. Hereford University Center at The University of Texas at Arlington does not imply endorsement of the event or the sponsoring organization by The University of Texas at Arlington."

Nappiology Expo Schedule - Sunday, November 7

10:00 – 7:00 p.m. Nappiology Expo

11:00 a.m. Workshop 1 – Making Natural Hair Care Your “Business” and Not Your “Hustle” - Rio A

12:15 p.m Workshop 2 – Rene Syler’s Natural Hair Journey – Rosebud Theatre

1:30 p.m. Workshop 3 – Hairlocking 101 – Rio A

2:45 p.m. – Bluebonnet Room

3:00 p.m. Workshop 4 – Hair Empowerment 101 – Basic Styling and Technique – Rio A

4:00 p.m. Workshop 5 – Transitioning 101 – From creamy crack to natural naps – Rio A

5:30 p.m. Natural Hair Showcase – Bluebonnet Room

Parking is available in lots F12, F13 and 11

Nappiology Vendors
Row 100
100 - Dr. Linda Amerson
101 - Natural Beauty Salon
102 - Beauty for U
103 - Legacy Holistic
104 - Curly Chicks
105 - NappyBliss

Row 200
200 - Loc Soc
201 - Massage by Sheryl
202 - Forever Fit
203 - Arbonne
204 - Cush Cosmetics
205 - My Hairitage

Row 300
300 - Jane Carter
301 - Wellness Center
302 - Smell a Lishes
303 - Le Foxx
304 - Nappy Rutz
305 - Mind Body and Soul - Loving Your Hair

Row 400
400 - Milstan Thermal
401 - Allure Beauty Salon
402 - Anytime Beauty Supply
403 - Afro Angel
404 - Deep in the Roots Salon

Row 500
500 - Pure and Healthy Hair Salon
501 - Jewels by Anike
502 - Ori Organics
503 - Afrocentric
504 - Natural Hair Rules!

Row 600
600 - NuDred
601 - Macy - Carol's Daughter
602 - Wrap a Loc
603 - Afroveda
604 - 3 Sister's Beauty Supply
605 - Dreadn Headz

Row 700
700 - Taliah Waajid
701 - Big Eyes Pea Head
702 - Nkisi
703 - Blackball Classic
704 - PandL Accessories
705 - Nappiology

I am truly excited and have been looking forward for this event since I joined the Nappiology meet up group a couple of months ago.  I will post plenty of event pics and look forward to networking and meeting new friends...hope to see every beautiful natural woman (or looking to become)  in DFW there!  


Growth Challenge: 12 months = 6"

Now that I've gotten rid of most of my heat damaged ends, I've decided to begin focusing on retaining length.  From November 29, 2010 (my birthday) to November 29, 2011 my goal is to retain all 6 inches of hair growth.  I thought about clipping ends, dusting and what not and realized if I'm not using heat in any way aside from DC there may not be a need to dust or trim so Im going for the gold, all 6 inches in one year.  This way if I dont make it I know I will make very close to.  Always Aim High!  

Another goal in the next 12 months is for my hair to increase it's thickness..  My hair is very soft and fine even the kinkier section so if I can thicken the strands my hair will appear to be more dense then it really is. Ayurveda has help much to date with increasing the diameter of my strands and gives my hair a much fuller appearance. 

Im going to measure the front sides and back separately and will post photos. I want to be sure all sections of my hair, especially the back section which is much kinkier and more prone to breakage is also retaining length.   Each month I will post an updated pic and every 3 months a comparison shot.   My regimen will stay the same unless I try out a new styling product and if so I always list the name or do a product review.  Im still looking for a new hair shampoo to replace Dr Bronners.  Once I purchase one if I like it I will update.  When it comes to styling products however I'm more open to change and switch up depending on what the product has in it and the results I get from using. 

My focus on Luv My Kynxx will also shift more towards styling options.  I will show more styling pictorials and attach Youtube vlogs as well.   I choose protective styling mostly twists and twist outs or cornrows to help me retain all 6 inches of hair growth this upcoming year.  Each style will last 2 wks minimum.  If it doesnt thats when I will make it last by wearing scarves and beanies to avoid manipulation which again is key to retaining length.  I encourage anyone who would like to join me in my journey towards healthier hair as we can be support for each other.