Saturday, February 19, 2011

Keep It Natural Hair Intervention!

I hear so many new-to-natural Naturalistas express their frustrations with the first year post big chop styling options.  I personally have never big chopped but I can still relate since I too had the same impulse to run out and grab a box of creamy crack around month five of my transition.  Don't fret, we all have had our fair share of this anxiety.  I love natural hair, not just mine but ALL natural hair.  I cringe when I have friends or even read and watch frustrated naturals I don't personally know give up and return or threaten to return to chemically treated hair.  You have come too far, even if you are just 2 months post big chopping...YOU CUT IT ALL OFF, that's coming a long way, not just esthetically but emotionally to be able to make such a drastic change in your appearance.  This is a S/O to every Sista out there who is struggling with first year jitters, keep the faith...your journey has just begun.

Add some neat Cornrows to the front or side of your TWA for sassy pizazz!

Using products that provide maximum curl definition also help cure TWA anxieties.

Comb Coils offer a nice change of pace and last awhile, freeing you from daily wash n' go blues.

Bantu Knots look FAB and can be rocked on TWA lengths!

Cutting your TWA into a style can also help with anxiety to relax again.  I see plenty of chic Naturalistas happy with the TWA stage and opt to keep their hair at this length.

Adding color can also cure the TWA blues.  It makes for a nice pick me up and change in appearance.

Whatever you do, don't sleep on hair accessories like head bands, beanies, feather or flowers, and even earrings!  Yep big beautiful earrings make a huge difference in the look of your TWA.

Feather earrings are HOTT!

Go BoHo with this style!

Chandeliers make an elegant choice for that night on the town rockin a TWA!

And the oh-so-popular flowered head bands...these are really cheap and easy quick TWA picker uppers!  Almost every Dollar Store keeps these in stock!

Flowers with bobby pins make great additons to a TWA!

Last but not least hats are a great accessory for those bad TWA hair days...we all have them at every length.

This is the flyest look to me!

Its important to remember the best part of going natural lies your journey not just the destination. Enjoy your journey, and in so you will enjoy the transition to natural hair. Soon you will be looking this (big smile):


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Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Many Styles with Mini Twists!

Since the beginning of this year my focus has been finding a style that I can wear everyday, still look cute, and that I don't have to use a brush or a comb to maintain.  Easier said then able to find.  I tried cornrows, after 7-8 days they start looking frowed on me after awhile which is not a good look, especially for my day job.  I tried a quick weave but it only made me miss touching and caring for my real hair. I just couldn't stop thinking about finding a hairstyle I could wear that would allow me to be free from using a comb or brush my hair for at least 10 days, would stay looking cute throughout those 10 days, and that would give me the versatility I need to avoid boredom from the same look?  After countless hours of You Tubing I decided to try some mini twists.  So many Naturalistas grow their hair out to extreme lengths from this heat free, low manipulation, easy to clean, condition, and groom, even when hair is still in the twists.  One of my favorite vloggers naturalhaircare101 provided me with the insight and removed anxiety about retaining all 6 inches in my journey for 2011.  I love twists and twist outs on my hair yet never thought about mini twists.  I can honestly say I am so happy I did because now I've found my staple hair doo!

To achieve maximum curl definition, maximum moisturizing, and minimum shrinkage I use Knot Today Leave-In and  Kinky Curly Curling Custard.  Wearing mini twists makes the $60 I will spend on the custard and two bottles of leave in per month a bargain.  I dilute 1/3rd of the leave in with spring water and spray it on my hair each night and morning to re-activate the custard.  Therefore there is no reason for me to keep applying the custard after the twists have been put in.

My twists re-wet after 10 days of wearing them.  Once they dried I fell even more in luv with them.  I never had to re-twist.  I applied metal duck bill clips on the roots and tied my hair down with a silk scarf...

...And the fun part is all the cute styles I tried once it this jazzy up do using another fave product of mine for definition Cantu:

Half up half down twists...
...or this banana clip bun

I gathered my twists above the crown of my head and applied my clip careful not to get my kynxx in the clasp...

and just let them hang...

...or create a nice bun with the use of bobby pins.

...and they make some of the most fierce looking twist outs I have ever been able to achieve.

I can even rock them without feeling like I have to conform to corporate standards of beauty.

I took my twists out to DC with Henna.  I could have worn them much longer than 14 days and intend on trying to keep them in for 21 days this next go round.  I began my Growth Journey 12/17/2010 shown in a previous post.  My goal is for my kynxx to be collar bone length or CBL by the end of this year...keeping my fingers crossed.  I decided not to stretch my hair on any of the length checks I do moving forward.  I will be showing before and after pics of my hair to chart my progress.  Look out for my next progress check on 3/17/2011! 


Sunday, February 6, 2011

Single Dad's, Natural Daughters

Contrary to many negative stereotypes about fathers, I see more single fathers raising their children then ever before.  As a result of the growing number of single parent homes being held down by fathers it didn't surprise me when a male friend of mine recently contacted me asking me questions about how to maintain his toddler aged twin daughters natural hair. He addressed his concerns with being able to take care of their hair without using chemicals and that require excessive styling as his confidence in hairstyling wasn't very high. Needless to say, I was ecstatic and eager to share some helpful tips to maintain his little princesses tresses.  Although I didn't have the advantage of actually seeing the condition of their hair or the texture and length, I was able to share basic knowledge of how to maintain their tiny kynxx with out causing him excessive preparation time when getting them ready each day.


Here is a very basic regimen, handling techniques and products for any Dad to use when caring for his daughters natural hair. 
  • Wide tooth comb and a very soft boar bristle brush
  • Shampoo
  • Conditioner
  • Leave in conditioner
  • Satin du rag or scarf
  • Rat Tail comb used for parting her hair only!
  • Wash her hair at least once every two weeks.  As long as you are not using too much product on her hair and scalp, every two weeks is sufficient.
  • Use a sulfate free shampoo.  Shea Moisture, Organix, or Tiny Twirls Shampoo by Kinky Curly are some wonderful choices.
  • When washing your little girls hair depending on the thickness and length use no more than quarter size amount of product, be gentle concentrating on cleaning her scalp more than her strands.  During the rinse process her hair will automatically get clean to the ends.
  • Rinse the shampoo out by leaning her head back in the sink or bathtub with her face upright facing you.  This will ensure no water or shampoo will fall into her eyes while washing and rinsing her hair.
  • Once all the shampoo has been rinsed out use a towel only to remove the excess water from her face.  Leave her hair dripping wet.  This helps eliminate pain of detangling which little ones dislike most about caring for their natural hair.
  • Apply a generous amount of conditioner to her hair concentrating on her ends.  Some great conditioners for her hair are Tiny Twirls Conditioner by Kinky Curly,  Homemade mayonnaise and one cracked egg whipped together make a great natural mild conditioner, or any type of cholesterol conditioner.  Be sure to saturate her dripping wet hair with the conditioner and allow it to sit or 2 minutes before you begin to detangle.
  • Detangle her hair by parting it into 4 sections.  One part down the middle from forehead to nape and another part from ear to ear.  Be sure to have some type of clips to keep the hair separated into each section.  Also, be sure to purchase a large tooth shower comb to aid with pain free detangling.  Begin combing out each section from the bottom (ends) of her hair to the root.  If shes crying, go slower and be more gentle, you may even want to add more conditioner to help with slippage. Once the section is detangled to prevent the hair from tangling again, twist or braid it.  If you don't know how to twist or braid then just keep it separate with your clip you used  Repeat this step until each of the four sections is completely detangled.
  • Rinse with cool to lukewarm water until water runs clear. 
  • Since her hair was previously detangled even if after you rinse it should still be detangled.  If not add the leave in conditioner like Knot Today by Kinky Curly, Tiny Twirls Styler by Kinky Curly, or Black Vanilla Leave-In by Carols Daughter, and detangle from ends to roots.
  • Styling is where it gets tricky for most Dads.  If you live in DFW and you don't have the time patience or will to style your daughters hair, I can style your little princess up! If you don't live in this area and opt to take her to a stylist, listen to your baby girl.  If she is complaining her hair is being braided to tight or it hurts her, find a new stylist! If you re a Dad who REALLY wants to learn how to do it himself here are a few styles you can try that are easy breezy like Two-strand twists, Cornrows,  and Afro Puffs.  The only thing about the Afro puff is it may require maintenance more often then twists or cornrows.  Be sure you spray her hair with the water to  moisturize daily and add some type sealant like Extra Virgin Olive Oil or Raw Shea Butter to aid in keeping her hair moist throughout the day. 

Above you see styles for little girls that are very easy to do and can be done with any hair type.Once styled you can tie her hair down with a satin du rag or scarf to ensure her style lasts.  Take advantage of YouTube tutorials on natural hair styling for children as well.   

 I decided to post an article about my friends interest in maintaining his daughters natural hair as I am certain other fathers who are raising daughters may share the desire to learn as well however simply don't know how to or where to begin.  Regardless if you're a Dad with or without your child's Mother in the home, you can become proactive in caring for your little girls hair.  Even if Mom is in the home, it doesn't mean Dad can't give her a break every now and then and take part in his little ones weekly hair care regimen.  By doing so, Fathers are building esteem in my opinion even greater than Mom can being natural herself.  As women we learn what love from a man is  from our fathers first.  Little girls who have a loving and attentive Dad to tell them how beautiful her and her natural hair is, will ensure a sense of self acceptance no other man will ever be able to take away from her.  Most importantly, as adults we pattern our mates after the image, or lack thereof, of our Fathers. Shout out to all the single fathers, and fathers in general, who actively participate in raising their children...they need you.  As women, with or without you in our lives, we need you in their lives as well.  Peace n' Blessings.